Understanding why people get in/stay in abusive relationships

IIt doesn’t make sense to the average person, but in reality, the reason so many don’t know how to leave is because they don’t know they are being abused. They either feel they owe the other person, they are remembering all the good times and using those to outweigh the bad, people don’t know where to get help, a lot of people won’t believe victims of certain types of abuse. Abuse isn’t always physical, so it happens behind closed doors a lot, and many churches suggest counseling and having family interventions, but what many religious organizations don’t realize is how dangerous it is when they try and bring people in Domestic Violence situations together or resolve issues. In fact, it makes it worse. Many of those facing dangerous situations need emergency help, not to heard about a book or religion on how someone or something else can help them. A lot of abuse is not physical, especially in those that like to appear like everything is together a stable and there is never any problem. In those that really are seeking help, they may not even ask for fear of owing another individual, government or group. The reason so many people stay in dangerous situations like these is because they have been taught there is no way out and they are incapable of ever living without the abuser.

The thing is, no abuser would ever consider themselves an abuser, they would blame the victim for they abuser’s actions and that is why it is so difficult for anyone in a harmful situation to ever speak up and not get hurt further. Because the fact is, they will get hurt further. The abuser will stalk them, follow them, harass them, monitor them their friends and other family and other coworkers. The abusers will try to take their children away through CPS, DHS, repeated court allegations. Worst of all abusers will wait until the victims life is falling apart in order to make them look unstable and crazy and to create an appearance that they were the ones the victims needed all along, so as to go with the terms abusers go by such as: “you need me”, “you can’t do it alone”, “you won’t last long just wait till you come crawling back,” “You don’t need anyone you have me.”…